Loss
Tonight I answered the door to find my brother standing there unexpectedly as he should have been at work still.
He very slowly told me that my grandmother had passed away this evening.
The news did shock me a bit as she was apparently doing better earlier this evening. For those who do not know my grandmother, she has been suffering from chronic drug dependency which over time worsened. I had always urged my family to get her the help she needed. It never happened.
A little bit of a background may be in order. I lived with my grandparents from birth till I was around 15, I had daily interactions with my parents but I truly lived with my grandparents. She was my an incredibly good listener, and she valued me above perhaps all others besides her husband (who passed away a few years ago). She was an amazing woman who greeted everyone at the door with an invitation for a home cooked meal, stories, gossip, and general conversation. She worked in every way to protect everyone from all harm. A great woman the likes of which I have yet to see an equal.
I will miss the endless walks with her, the conversation, her advice, her concern, and her charity. The world is a bit darker without her.
Conversely I hold great malice towards her caregiver who aptly sat in the same room with her as she expired without any help. I have a very deep suspicion that he not only failed to provide assistance but perhaps hastened her passing. Unfortunately my family declined for an autopsy.
I am glad my grandmother is beyond the suffering of her frailty, she has many sights to see with eyes of new and I am confident that our paths will cross once again.
I miss her much, always will, the world has lost something truly special.
Mallie Farmer Pace
Grays Knob
January 9, 2005
Mallie Farmer Pace, 79, Grays Knob, died Jan. 9, 2005, at Harlan Appalachian Regional Hospital.
She was born June 12, 1925, in Harlan County, was a homemaker and believed in the Holiness faith.
She was preceded in death by her parents, John and Pearlie Ledford Farmer; her husband, Elbert Pace; two daughters: Jewell Lee Short and Marlin Pace; two brothers: Lester Farmer and Fred Farmer; and four sisters: Thelma Smith; Roxie Jones; Alice Farmer and Cassie Weaver.
Survivors include two sons: Roger Glen Pace and wife, Debbie, Grays Knob; and Elbert Pace Jr. and wife, Linda, Grays Knob; ex-daughter-in-law: Tina Pace, Cranks; two brothers: the Rev. Howard Farmer, Cawood; and Olin Farmer, Grays Knob; three sisters: Elise Stanton, Cawood; Ellie Sue Robertson, Battle Creek, Mich.; and Vernie Walker, Corbin; 11 grandchildren: Debbie Smith, Jeff Short, Shelby Short Jr., Melissa Short, Tracy Short, Johnny Short, Kimberly Michelle Pace, Michael Pace, Roger Glen Lee Pace, Mark Pace and Robert Pace; seven great grandchildren: Joshua Grant Short, Misty Short, Tiffany Short, Chelsea Short, Michael Short, Bethany Short and Chasity Smith; and one great-great grandchild.
Visitation is today from 6 to 9 p.m. in the chapel of Mount Pleasant Funeral Home.
Graveside services will be Wednesday at the Grays Knob Cemetery with the Rev. Gary Grubbs and the Rev. Don Smith officiating.
Family and friends will serve as pallbearers.
Mount Pleasant Funeral Home is in charge of arrangements.
my love and thoughts to you robert.
January 12th, 2005 at 2:38 amI’m so sorry for your loss.
January 12th, 2005 at 6:26 am*hug*
Thank you.
January 12th, 2005 at 1:47 pmThank you.
*hugs you back*
January 12th, 2005 at 1:47 pm